HOW TO STAY A CHILD ... OR .. TEACHING THE SLEEP!
maybe someone is wondering .. but why an article like that in a blog about communication?
Ehhh ... I guess so that someone does not has children.
Never in my life, my communication skills have been tested, weighed, analyzed and tested since I like children. And who has them can easily understand.
One of the initial "challenge" that I and my boyfriend we faced in the first days of life of our baby was sleeping ... the infamous sleep ....!!
At this point I want to do a basic premise: I love my children more than anything else in the world, I love them, they are my greatest happiness, I would do anything to see them happy, I would die for them ....
BUT ....
instant when bedtime came the little gurgling bundle is transformed into one terrifying moment an evil dwarf with screaming sirens and amplifiers!
A lethal mix of tears, snot, screams sentenced to death, fists and kicking legs and, over time, accompanied by howling "mammmaaaaaaa, papaaaaaaaaaaaaa !!!.....
crushed ... And we, in panic, felt a little guilty to be guilty of the crime of leaving the little "angel" in the grip of blind terror ran through the corridors of the house at night, and as Olympic athletes, jumped tables, side tables, dogs and bowls of water in less than a nanosecond and we were at the bedside of the little "victim" and my wife took him fast in her arms and began to rock ....
and try to guess what he was doing the little swindler?
There was no need to take him ... the instant when he saw the mother's arms stretch towards him, the little manipulator immediately stop crying .. eyes dry as the Sahara desert, the nose as free advertising for Vicks, and the blissful smile worthy of an advertisement of Mulino Bianco ...
And heaven on earth lasted until the small, sleepy, was not put to bed ... just enough time to get to our bed, close your eyes and lie to get e. .. HHHHHUUUUUUUAAAAA !!!!!
And so on ...
Now, for the first few weeks there have also fallen for me in this wicked little game ...
then I started looking at the little "angel" who stop crying as soon as they picked through different eyes ...
And you would not believe ... but apart from the satisfaction you might try an investigator in the foil a diabolical plan I tried a great admiration ....
already ... because I knew that he had met one of the leaders of a powerful lobby in the world capable of handling and turning over large numbers of adults to your liking ... of the masters of communication at all levels ....
CHILDREN
Sure .. children ... sweet, wonderful little creatures capable of bringing the two in the morning, to December, in pajamas, to drive the car around the block house in the hope of making them sleep, sweet little puppies for which you are willing to go out at three o'clock in the morning runs the house in summer to push the wheelchair because ... "When we take him out in a wheelchair immediately relaxes and falls asleep ...."... and as I write I have to laugh because even though I had read almost everywhere that this should not be done these things I've done everything, one after another, in the throes of sleep and despair ...
is why .. I joke and jokes ... but it is true that sometimes children are taking to "exhaustion" .. in the sense that you arrive to the point of exhaustion mixed with nervousness and stoned that you would be willing to do anything to resolve the situation ....
Yet there is a solution. And it's all written in a little book of just 120 pages.
I found it shortly before birth my second child and when I read the title and short description of the book that I had taken in hand with a gesture almost automatically I immediately thought:
- Nothing happens by chance
- was undoubtedly a sign from God (he he)
- If that book had worked I would have danced the macarena naked
I bought the little book, both for the reasons above that of curiosity. The same evening my wife and I have started to read it in an hour and we were done.
Now ... jokes and irony aside.
Insomnia, the inability to satisfy the need of rest, in children greatly affects their attitude of life.
And so explained irritability, restlessness, bad mood, crying for no reason and hyperactivity ... Yeah, because the fatigue, in children, acts as exciting.
Other consequences of poor sleep are: the lack of attention, too much attention and reliance on people who care for the child and ... hear hear ... growth hormone (somatropin, or factor hg) is secreted during the first few hours of sleep. If the small and irregular sleep may alter the production of this hormone and consequently affect growth. Children who do not sleep well pay the price in terms of weight and inches.
What I was immediately impressed by this book and its author is the approach to parents.
Perhaps many of you are very young and have never known the joys of parenthood. But I assure you that the feeling of helplessness and "loss" that can be felt by new parents, seasoned with a generous dose of fear of failure could shake anyone.
I want to reassure you now .. with time and practice you become more and more good, but ... always remember that no parent was graced by an instruction manual at the time of the birth of their son!
To return to the approach:
the book begins with three basic points to start this process of education or re-education in sleep:
- your child does not have any disease
- has no psychological problems. E 'proven fact that in 98% of cases, insomnia child comes from a bad habit to sleep and only 2% of the cases we speak of "psychological causes."
- is not spoiled, even if sometimes the gossips would let you believe.
will seem strange, but read those three points gave me an immediate feeling of relief .. then there have been a terrible father! Then I am still unable to resolve the situation!
And here begins the rehabilitation of sleep. Yeah! Why do not necessarily need to buy this book only if the baby is not born yet!
Even if you are among that category of parents who drive at night, pushing prams or in catalepsy who fall asleep on the ground holding the hand of her son and wake up the morning with a sore neck and Voltaren next to the toothbrush ... There is still time! There is still hope!
So .. learn to sleep! And to accompany us parents in this endeavor are Dr. Eduard Estivill and journalist Sylvia de Bejar.
So Highly recommended this little booklet to all parents!
And if that fails, do not give up! Try something else!
And from me a big GOOD LUCK!
